Date-Out

I usually pack lunches for my husband and myself everyday - yesterday he didnt want lunch because he was going out for an informal team lunch - I was lazy to pack for myself and thought I'd eat out as well. I felt like joining him for lunch, he asked once to join as well. but I was not sure it was appropriate to go with his team. so I said no and he didnt push. then he calls around lunch time and tells me he his friends ditched him and he wanted to have lunch with me, I was laughing stealthily, but he knew from my voice I was glad about that. So off we went to this nice restaurant, just the 2 of us and we had a nice lunch - And end of the lunch, we were chatting away for about 10 mins and I realised I felt like I should tell him his virtues and how much sweet he is and all that. So, I told him that he has been very sweet and very loving and understanding and let me do what I like to do and want to do, no sort of pressure from him in any way - to this he tells me its nice to hear and that he should take me to lunches often. And then I could not stop myself telling him what I didnt like about him - he is shallow or at least seems so - he is not a good talker, but a good listener and understands me very well. So, I pretty much dont get anything in response to my serious talks, except that he loved me and will do anything to comfort me. Why I say shallow is that when it comes to family crisis, everybody talks and shouts and rants - but all he can come up with is an escapy smile and no strong gestures. he is not a strong personality - nothing wrong about it , except in times of problems, when it seems like he doesnt care, while actually he doesnt know how to react.....
And then I ask him, what he doesnt like about me, he says I am very judgemental and evaluating - I know this was coming. I know I am and sometimes can get mean - but thats what I am. He also said, I was not doing it to him lately, also attributed that to our spending less time together. I made a note to myself to not to evaluate him any more...